Composed Desire

Composed Desire

Don't look at the car he drives or the watch he wears

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Umi
Feb 24, 2026
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When I was a teenager, at that age when fathers sense that boys are about to enter the conversation, mine sat me down and said something I did not fully understand at the time:

“Don’t look at the clothes they wear, the watch on their wrist, or the car they drive. See if they own a house.”

He wasn’t telling me to marry for money.

He was teaching me to recognize stability.

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