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Nice for what

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Umi
Feb 09, 2026
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Several people I trust have told me the same thing over the years: you are too nice.

A friend said it recently, almost gently, as if delivering a diagnosis. My mother has been less subtle. She once told me that my kindness is so consistent it risks being misread, that people might assume I’m either naïve or inauthentic. That I must be compensating for so…

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