You don't owe softness

There’s a specific kind of woman who gets called cold, and it’s never the one you’d expect.

It’s not the one who’s unkind. Not the one who ignores you, dismisses you, speaks over you at dinner. Those women get other words. Difficult. Intense. A lot. But cold is reserved for a particular offense: the woman who is warm, visibly warm, but won’t give it to y…